She is free
(at last)
I watched her spirit slowly die
as he crushed it day after day
not knowing what to do or say
she hid herself away in every
crevice and corner of her mind
that she could find.

She has never lived before
…he made sure of that

she is free
and, so lost
because all she’s ever done
is do whatever he told her
she must
and she has yet to learn what
it’s like to truly live.

Long have I grieved
long have I waited
for her to find the courage
to say

I want so much to hold her
and convince her that her
tears are expressions of fear
because she is free
and she has long forgotten
how it was to be that way.


© Daydreamertoo      *All rights reserved

My youngest sister finally said: “Enough is enough” (thank God) and with a lot of official (police/courts/social worker) support and family support too, she is going to soon be free from the bullying, much older brute she married when she was just 16, still a child herself.
She is in her mid 40’s now, 3 kids all grown too and, she has to re-learn that she is free and she can live life on her own terms, not on his.
She has a laptop now and I’ve chatted with her in voice today 🙂 despite my ‘funny’ accent … haha …teaching her how to use Facebook, Yahoo and such.
He wouldn’t ‘allow’ her to even use a computer.
In many ways I tried to help her so many times, to be there for her when she needed a place to run to, but it’s so hard to watch someone you love and have to be ‘civil’ around someone you despise and, have to truly bite your tongue in case you make it worse for them, instead of helping.
Sometimes, I miss them all so much. She said to me today: “I miss you so much Bren. I miss your hugs and your words of wisdom. Awww…
I just thank God she finally found her courage to say ‘No more.’

Author: Daydreamer

I live on a beautiful island in Atlantic Canada.

12 thoughts on “Free”

  1. Thank goodness she came out alive! xxx to you both!
    That was a cool poem as well, there was this rhythmic quality to it, sing-songy like 🙂

  2. I commend you and your sister. You for your support and love of her and her for the strength to stand her ground and realize life is too short to remain under someone else’s control. The day my mother died my brother-in-law had my sister committed (not because she needed to be…she was exhausted from caring for mom) and it was then she decided it was time to move on and away from someone who care only for himself. Your post is beautiful and thank you for sharing.

  3. ugh…hard to read and a reality i am faced with all the time bren…sadly….but i am glad she got the help she needed and found freedom….

  4. Freedom is amazing, and frightening too. She’ll need the support of people she knows she can trust. It is a long road “back to being me”…she’s got a lifetime left to live.

    You are a good sister. My heart and hugs are with you both.

  5. A good majority of women in the world live under similar circumstances but within varying degrees. Could you imagine living in a country ran by the Taliban? The women are virtual slaves.

    Your sister is very brave to be doing this and it is harder than one might think. She is lucky to have you on her side. It will be wonderful to see her blossom under your wings.

    Thanks for sharing this with this weeks Theme Thursday. A corner story I had not thought about.

    God bless.

    PS….if you sister ever wants to start blogging, she would be more than welcome to come join us. We would love to have her.

  6. Exquisite writing that stands powerfully on its own and cuts even deeper when the back story is added. Bravo! for the poem, the power to say no, and the positivity. 🙂

  7. How wonderful….having a been there but different situation I’m so pleased and giving up prayers of thanksgiving for her freedom to be herself and away from her situation.
    Thank you for sharing. You are a wonderful older sister and wonderful support for her.
    God Bless.
    Siggi in Downeast Maine

  8. Wow, not even use a computer, controlling much. Glad she dumped the sack of shat, seen this kind of thing up close and personal too, not pretty.

  9. This is so sad, Bren; but I am happy that at last she sid NO and will be able to find her OWN way and be in charge of her own destiny. She took a big step, and I hope other steps continue.

  10. Oh she has taken the first important step on that road to freedom and happiness. It wont be long before she realizes the utter relief of not having to deal with that bully any more. She can just…live. Wake up in the morning and decide what she feels like doing. Good for her! I SO know what you mean about having to be civil around someone like that, for fear of making things worse for her.SO glad she has reclaimed life for herself. You must wish you lived closer. HEY! Maybe she can come see you for a visit. That would be just the ticket to celebrate her new life. Give her my very best wishes, Bren. Tell her so many of us have lived with guys like that, finally said Enough and discovered life alone is a kazillion times happier than life with a guy like that – and the future is now wide open to a thousand wonderful possibilities.

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